Consent is a tricky subject to speak about, because there’s so many different branches of consent that it gets confusing. It’s a very important topic & it helps people realise what’s actually happened to them. It also helps people understand if someone else has given consent or not. Types of consent include implied consent, expressed consent, informed consent and unanimous consent.
What does not constitute as consent?
> Silence – silence is not consent. If they’re silent & actively showing interest in sex, then that is consent. If they are silent & showing no interest, then that is not consent.
> Unconsciousness – being unconscious is not consent. Most rape or attacks happen when someone is black out drunk or asleep at parties. If someone gives consent before they fall asleep or falls unconscious& someone continues the sexual encounter whilst they’re not awake, that IS NOT consent.
> Underage – if someone is under the age of 16, they can’t give consent to someone over the age of 16. In some cases, it is illegal. For example, if a girl is 13 and the boy is 17, that is statutory rape, if the girl was 17 & boy was 13, that is sexual assault. However, if both people are under 16, although ‘consent can’t be given’, it’s not illegal.
> Saying no – if someone says ‘no’. There is no ifs or buts. Consent IS NOT given.
If you’re not sure whether you gave consent or not, I’m just a message away & more than happy to help. I’ve had a few people come forward and talk to me about their experience & I’ve pointed them in the right direction.
Theres a video which I think is very important and explains consent perfectly. It’s called ‘Tea consent’ on YouTube, so if this was too complicated, go watch that. It’s a brilliant video.