A question I’ve been asked fairly often is – “Are you a feminist?”. There’s not really a yes or no answer to this for me, so I thought I’d explain it fully.
Everyone knows that feminism started as the fight for equal rights between women and men, this was called the first and second wave of feminism. The third wave of feminism was about equal pay between the sexes & now the fourth wave of feminism focuses on sexual harassment and rape. Unfortunately, it’s not as simple as that.
So many ‘feminists’ during the third wave and fourth wave are man haters! Feminism has an awful name in the 21st Century now, purely based on the hatred and negativity towards men. They believe women should be superior, which is NOT what feminism is, which is why I struggle to identify as a feminist, I don’t want to be associated with the man haters.
Feminism is & always will be equality between the sexes. In 2020, equality still isn’t there. Until we have equality. feminism won’t go away, women need it. No matter how much people like to argue it, the pay gap is still there. It’s illegal to state that a woman is being paid less due to being a woman, but it’s legal if you make up an excuse, which a lot of establishments owned by men do. For example a woman gets paid less than a man in the same job, because she got a lesser grade in a certain qualification, or because she’s in the prime age of having a baby, so she may take time off, or because she works more hours than the man so it’s only fair to pay her less, so they earn the same amount yearly. Excuses always have been made to pay women less than men. We need feminism until this gap is closed, fully.
Secondly, we need feminism because one in ten convicted rapists serve their full sentence, that is if we are lucky enough to get them convicted. I went to watch a trial in Lewes Crown Court, where a man pleaded not guilty to rape. The evidence showed he admitted the rape and apologised to the victim, the jury (with 11 men & 1 woman) found him not guilty, even with a confession. I hate to say it, but if the jury was more equal gender wise, the victim would’ve had a chance of getting justice. She’s serving a full life sentence, why shouldn’t he? I need feminism because sexual assault is still rife in society today, for victims of both genders. I need feminism because when I walk alone in the dark, I walk with my key between my fingers. I need feminism because men can walk around without a care in the world & I’m worried I’m going to be assaulted.
As a strong & powerful woman, we want to be acknowledged for what we can do, the struggles we face and what we bring to society. What warrants us being treated like second class citizens in the eyes of the law? Why can’t a white male get a sentence to pay for what he did? Oh, that’s because he’s white & a man. Unfortunately, white men are privileged. White women are also privileged & I can acknowledge that as a white person. Being white & male, you’re the top of the pyramid unfortunately & it needs to be acknowledged. The pyramid needs to disappear. Without the pyramid, is equality.
I need feminism because if I agreed with the way society works, it would be like a slug praising salt.